This GQ article provides a nice outline of what to expect from couples therapy and makes the excellent point that the sooner you begin, the better. Couples often wait until the relationship is in critical condition but using couples therapy proactively can give you the tools you need to head trouble off at the pass.
This New York Times article is called “Marriage Therapists Who Follow Their Own Advice.” It follows John and Julie Gottman, two psychologists who are married and who together created the Gottman method of couple’s therapy which we use here at PPG. As an evidence based approach marriage counseling that is backed by decades of data, we think it’s a great example of how a marriage can grow and develop over the years. Check out our couples therapy services to see how we can help you get started towards a healthier marriage.
Check out this New York Times article called “Try These ‘Love Hacks’ to Fix Your Marriage.” After studying thousands of couples, psychologist Eli Finkel has an explanation for the decline in people’s satisfaction with their marriages over the past four decades.
Key takeaways include:
- The importance of touch in building trust and affection.
- The do’s and don’ts of having a fight, including the strategy of ‘looking at a fight from the outside.’
- How and why to celebrate small victories.
We recommend watching this Tara Brach video called “The Dance of Relational Trance.” In it, Brach talks about what to do when we become emotionally reactive in our relationships. We often go into a trance that creates separation and stops us from connecting with others. What to do when this happens? This talk explores how, by pausing and deepening our attention, we can reconnect with others and ourselves.